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Monday, May 25, 2009

weaning

I think I’m weaning Adam off breastfeeding now. Sigh..just 5 more months before his 2nd birthday..I wish I didn’t have to..poor Adam..

For about 3 weeks now Adam has had new teeth coming out and has been biting me while nursing. As a result ada kesan mcm kene kelar all around the areola. It’s terribly painful everytime he feeds…oh God..I don’t think labour was as bad as this. Nighttime is the worst, he cannot sleep without his feedings and he wakes up many times during the night to feed. It’s more comfort than anything else, but if he doesn’t get it, he cannot go back to sleep. The past few weeks has just been awful…we’re totally sleep deprived. Everytime I have to feed him I scream and cry like crazy…I’m not exaggerating..this is really painful. I’ve been bitten before..but not as bad as this.

When we were in Malaysia we went to a clinic and the doctor positively told me to just wean him off the breast altogether. He gave me an injection for the pain, a lot of painkillers, antibiotics (in case there has been an infection) etc. But I was still adamant about keeping to breastfeed him..afterall, tinggal 5 months je lagi…sayangnye kalau berhenti skarang..The last time I had the same problem I was working and thus get a break from direct feeding at office hours. Eventually it healed..This time I get no breaks at all, plus we left I such a hurry that I forgot to take my pump with me so I cannot pump while we were there..

But when we got back here, the problem just got a lot worse. Makin byk luka and makin sakit and it’s not healing at all despite all the ubat from the doctor and jeli gamat I take and apply on the area. I started pumping but Adam won’t take any bottle anymore, he wants to feed directly. But he would drink fresh milk out of a mug. Finally I decided that I just have to wean him off..at least until all the luka have healed..otherwise it’s just going to get worse and worse. So for a couple of days now adam hasn’t had any direct feeding at all. It’s been such a nightmare…what with the jetlag..Adam crying all the time needing his comfort feeds to sleep..plus Adam’s a little spoiled from out trip back home. Maklumlah semua org layan Adam all the time masa kat Malaysia..now tingal Mommy and Daddy je layan Adam…we’re so exhausted and sleep deprived..at the same time we still have to take him to the parks, to burn off his energy to help him sleep better and also adjust his sleeptime to get over his jetlag..Thank God for the long weekend this week. Otherwise I don’t know how I would survive this alone without hubby..Thank you bang..

Adam, I’m so sorry I have to make you quit breastfeeding..I know I promised you 2 years..but insyaAllah when this heals we can try again ok..

I think Adam’s doing better though. Last night he slept without any feeds and whenever he woke up wanting his feed, I was able to put him back to sleep just by holding him and comforting him..tak payah wake up the whole house sampai pagi as usual…

To all breastfeeding and co-sleeping mom, how do you guys wean off your child after the 2 years has passed? Especially night feeds? How to put them to sleep without their usual feed?

17 comments:

Hanim said...

Gosh.. hop over to my blog. I think I have a premature weaning off :(

MN said...

when I wean off my son last time, the night time was a bit tiring.
i kena dukung dia dulu sampai dia tido. then bila dia jaga tengah malam kena dakap dia sambil bagi dia susu botol. to let him very close to me.
you can try the different positions until he falls asleep.

Lan0stZz said...

aida, mcm hQ I give him FM b4 he sleeps, & he would sleep through out the nite soundly sbb the susu tu hadam extra effort sket by the body so nyenyak la baby tido. And if he wakes up, just offer him plain water.. ketuk2 tidor balik. now haiQal tak bangun langsung tgh mlm. so since adam is just 1 mth younger, he'll pretty much adjust to the routine like haiQal now is going thru. seriously, I'm loving my nights now :) cukup akhirnya 8 jam tidor hehehe. selamat maju jaya ye.

jua said...

macam MN comment, memang a bit tiring waktu malam. my boy langsung tak reti hisap botol, so nak masuk 2 minggu i dah jadi macam waktu berpantang, tak cukup tidur sbb nak pujuk n dodoikan dia balik.

kena banya SABAR, itu key paling penting. plus kita as mommy kena ego sikit (kdg2 i kalah gak, terhulur gak b**bies). insyaAllah, masuk 2-3minggu semuanya OK.

JOELY said...

sian aida...sampai luka2..xpala xcukup 2 years pon..u have done your very best pon...ms i wean off Aqil, i letak asam jawa kt nipple..but yours tgh luka2 kn..so i pon xsure u berani ke letak asam jawa...takut pedih jer...seminggu je..then mmg terus stop...siap Aqil ckp...xsdap...n i keep telling him...Aqil dah besar, xmau nenek (nenen)..then dia paham cemtu lahh....tp still die terbgn gak mlm2 n meraba2..ehehe...pasni nk separate tidur pulak...

Adinina said...

Hi,
my sis in law used a trick by applying syrup on her bre8ast, so that the son thought she was bleeding. Haha dia jadi takot and langsung tak nak hisap, the boy then continued to sleep. The next day he asked again for it,even asked the mom to go to clinic, how clever!. But sbb my SIL asik ckp her bre8st belum baik for a few days, eventually the son forgot bout it. Berjaya pun wean off! Hehe. Maybe you should try? Btw, salam perkenalan ya. :)

MommyAdam said...

hanim,
alamak..dia nak wean sediri?

MN,
my son tanak botol susu langsungla pulak..but i will try the different positions..

lana,
don't think i can give adam formula or EBM since he won't take a bottle at all :( but it looks like he is adjusting slowly to sleeping without nursing..

jua,
anak you dah 2 years ek?sounds like my situation now..mcm dlm pantang :) i'm not really tempted to give in to him though cos right now i'm terrified of the pain!

joely,
thank you joely..i takleh cuba yg asam jawa tu..i just kene ckp no jelah kat adam sbb mommy sakit..sian adam..separate tido in our plan too..tapi tak sure bila..and mcmana nak buat..

MommyAdam said...

adinina,
in this case i don't have to lie about the bleeding! can just show him the luka2 which i did. plus all the screaming and crying whenever he nurses must've been an indication. i think he understood.i guess that's why he's asking for it less and less now.

Hanim said...

my girl dah stop bottle few mths ago.. same situation la aida...

guna straw cup to give fresh milk, or give her in those mini boxces. arianna loves things her size, eg Milo 125ml :)

actually last mth she started crying at night, tried to BF, she didn't want it. she wanted plain water in her straw cup instead. argh! i have a premature weaner on hand?

CuppyCakeMommy said...

ala..5 more month je lagi..can u get any lactation advice on that matter first..sayang la

norhafiza said...

aida, just want to drop by n nak bgtau...

WE R 2 MONTHS PREGNANT! YEAY!

fiza-kirin

p/s:am using ur prev blog as my reference!! :)

Lan0stZz said...

He doesnt take bottle? uh-oh, maybe u can try out different teats? yg nipple like ke..what was it called i forgot. Try bagi Adam waktu dia betul2 lapar, like when dia terpaksa and there's no other option - which means when u r not around. Hopefully he will adjust fast. Senang idop with the bottles :)

Hanim said...

I'm giving Arianna fresh/UHT milk using straw cup. Ever since she quit her bottles just after 1yr+, we haven't been able to get her back on bottles.

Paediatrician says it's okay. Orthodontist would like that fact too :D

Fellow US moms who EBF, did not resort to bottles at 6 mths, they introduced sippy cups for EBM. Just my 2cents.

Hanim said...

Ever since she quit her bottles just after 1yr+, we haven't been able to get her back on bottles. I used Breasflow bottles in fact, mmg mcm breast... and the flow mmg like breastflow... u have to suck hard before u get letdown unlike normal teat). I didn't try Adiri bottle though.

Paediatrician says it's okay. Orthodontist would like that fact too :D

Fellow US moms who EBF, did not resort to bottles at 6 mths, they introduced sippy cups for EBM. Just my 2cents.

Anonymous said...

salam aida...
tahniah...
nape x bg kak ani dlu...
my sis in law pn dh pregnant gak...
sedihnye...
tlg doakan...
best nye adam dpt baby...

luv,
kak ani

nadiahelmi said...

Aida,

just wondering how Adam's doing on going to bed without nursing. I'm struggling to teach my D1na to sleep without nursing..we tried CIO for 2 nights now and I end up caving to her cries after 10-15 mins. Sedih sgt dgr as it gets louder and louder..:(

Also want to transfer her out of our bed..huhu..but one step at a time..:P

Thanks!

MommyAdam said...

hanim,
hows it going? did she quit bfeeding? yeah i never went back to bottles. mmg dia tanak. kasi fresh milk in regular plastic cups je..

kak ani,
sorry...insyaAllah turn kak ani pulak pasni ek...

nadia,
Adam is doing very well. doesn't ask for night nursing anymore and he can sleep very well throughout the night, in fact, better than before. dulu satu mlm bgn minum 6-7 kali. but it does take strong willpower. give it a month, maybe? slowly...lama2 boleh insyaAllah..

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